“Wolves which batten upon lambs, lambs consumed by wolves, the strong who immolate the weak, the weak victims of the strong: there you have Nature, there you have her intentions, there you have her scheme: a perpetual action and reaction, a host of vices, a host of virtues, in one word, a perfect equilibrium resulting from the equality of good and evil on earth.” Marquis De Sade – 1740-1814, French Author
I was speaking to someone just starting out on her career earlier in the week. I enjoyed talking to her and asking her about what happens next in her career and what are her aspirations.
Being young and new to world (never tell them that they don’t want to hear it), untouched by disappointment or rejection or personal issues, she has a unique view on the rest of us. We are tainted by disillusionment, broken promises and frustration. As my therapist once said to me, “it’s those circumstances; those incidents which cause you the greatest pain come clear understanding.” This young and new person was talking about her pursuits it was just nice and uncomplicated to see and hear that view.
There is no warning you can provide for those starting out. Any warning you provide is seen as tainted with terrible memories which could only happen to you not to the new and untried. Not to say you shouldn’t try but she is probably right, it will likely not happen to her as it happened to you.
“Experience increases our wisdom but doesn’t reduce our follies.” Josh Billings – 1815-1885, American Humorist, Lecturer
Some of our experiences such as divorce demand we share with others if only to serve as a warning. Other experiences will only be understand by you, no matter how hard you try to relate them to others.
There is one thing these terrible memories can bring to us that cannot be seen by someone new. I understand clearly what love is and cherish it. I understand and hold on to those moments in life that I laughed with friends, shared a good meal, opened a present, watched the sunset or held the person I loved close to me. Because of experience, you know those moments are fleeting so enjoy the moment for exactly what is and move on.
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