“we have the ability to differ from right and wrong, some just choose to ignore it” Alejandro Santillan – young
When I went to court and argued that my ex-wife didn’t really support or nurture the children I had placed many examples in front of the lawyers:
1. She often worked late into the night and ignored the needs of the children including caring for them and even feeding them.
2. She would leave them alone for hours at time. They had to learn to fend for themselves.
3. She used tactics such as yelling and screaming at them to control them. Her temper would go off the deep end and she could do this for hours.
4. I pulled up examples of her attending meetings and seminars in remote locations as examples.
In the end, the courts didn’t believe me and did not allow my examples as evidence. My ex-wife counted with she was always there for the children and that’s why she needed as much money from me as possible.
I hate being right about this but I knew this from the very beginning of the case. I knew deep down I was right about her. That the abuse I received at her hands would continue with my children. Part of the reason I stayed so far away from her was I couldn’t bear to watch what she would do – call it the coward’s way out. I had tried my best to convince the world that maybe even a small part of what I said had a lot of truth behind me and I failed. I came to the conclusion that the courts are more willing to believe the woman than the man.
And now, after so many months turning into years, it’s coming back to haunt me. I have received several emails from my ex that my own children are threatening suicide. It is incredibly painful to watch and hear this. This isn’t a plea for suicide, my children are looking for attention and love they are not getting from her. Where am I in all of this? Ah, the excuses are long and many coming from me. After 14 years of abuse from her, I cannot stand to even be in her presence. I am repulsed by her and even her emails. I want to yell and scream to the world that see – “I WAS FUCKING RIGHT ALL ALONG! YOU DUMB STUPID FUCKING BASTARDS!” I was right… It just cost the welfare of my children, a huge price to pay. This feels as helpless and fucked up as the day I tried to change this….
Give your children someone to talk to and some support.You should take a interest in what they have to say,that means alot to them and if the timing is not just right let them know you really want to talk and are very interested in what they have to say. Let them know that as soon as you can that you’ll be with them to talk and catch up on things and that maybe you can help them feel better.They are worth not letting anything stop you from an effort to comfort and save them?
Comment by Patrice Manning — June 16, 2008 @ 7:06 am |
by the way that’s a great quote,we have the ability to differ from right and wrong.It totally fits your story.where can i find quotes from this author?
Comment by patrice manning — June 7, 2009 @ 10:03 am |