“Our life is not really a mutual helpfulness; but rather, it’s fair competition cloaked under due laws of war; it’s a mutual hostility.” Thomas Carlyle - 1795-1881, Scottish Philosopher, Author
In the terms of what happens as I have said before, “it’s not fair”. The balance in divorce is there is no balance. In everything I have learned the balance tips quickly.
“Civilization is drugs, alcohol, engines of war, prostitution, machines and ‘machine slaves, low wages, bad food, bad taste, prisons, reformatories, lunatic asylums, divorce, perversion, brutal sports, suicides, infanticide, cinema, quackery, demagogy, strikes, lockouts, revolutions, putsches, colonization, electric chairs, guillotines, sabotage, floods, famine, disease, gangsters, money barons, horse racing, fashion shows, poodle dogs, chow dogs, Siamese cats, condoms, peccaries, syphilis, gonorrhea, insanity, neuroses, etc., etc.” Henry Miller – 1891-1980, American Author
What are you going to do?
“The essence of justice is mercy.” Edwin Hubbel Chapin 1814-1880, American Author, Clergyman
Offer mercy – acceptable certain inalienable truths – such as:
· the scales are not tipped in your favor,
· harbor no resentment,
· live your own life, not in dreams of vengeance in hers,
· embrace reality – it’s okay to have dreams – but live in the now,
· be spontaneous,
· solve the problem move on,
· use your experience, wisdom, knowledge, to help others,
· accept yourself and others and remove prejudice,
· do what you do and pursue fulfillment,
· become what you are capable of becoming,
· be unthreatened and un-frightened by the unknown,
· reason, see the truth and know that truths change,
· be logical and efficient but follow love (right GF),
· accept the natural world,
· see human nature as it is – a lack of crippling shame or guilt,
· pursue enjoyment without shame or guilt,
· build no unnecessary inhibitions,
· create your thoughts and your impulses unhampered by convention,
· your ethics are clear and autonomous,
· pursue growth,
· focus on your problems, and people outside of yourself – you are not the center of universe,
· know your mission in life and apply energy,
· be alone but not lonely,
· be unflappable, have dignity amid everyone else confusion and personal misfortunate’s,
· retain objectivity
· be a self-starter, you reason for moving on is your own,
· don’t stereotype people,
· moment to moment living is fantastic, every moment is the best moment,
· your vision can be a limitless horizon,
· Identify, provide sympathy, and affection for those that really need it regardless if that individual is cruel or ugly or indifferent – your reasons are your own,
· Share your love with a precious few,
· Be humble and friends to anyone regardless of class, education, religion, political belief, race or color, your beliefs transcend the typical boundaries.
· Be original, inventive, intrinsic, and sensitive to the situation
· Know your imperfections and pursue growth,
· become self-actualized (look it up – you will know what I mean)
I have said a lot of things on here, mostly tongue-in-cheek, what I really believe is the list above. I am not saying I am this person just striving to be.
